The Lamb who was slain from the creation of the world.

Revelation 13:8 (NIV)

For [God] chose us in [Christ] before the creation of the world to be holy and blameless in his sight

Ephesians 1:4 (NIV)

The fall of Adam did not take God by surprise because He had already chosen to adopt us as sons and daughters in Christ before creation. In other words, the Incarnation was not an afterthought, but part of the eternal plan and purpose of God for humanity. Jesus did not become human to fix the Fall but to accomplish God's will of including us and others into the Trinitarian family of the Godhead.

Jesus became one of us, so we could be one with Him.

Our adoption into God’s family is only possible through our complete union with Christ. This union enables us to be in a loving fellowship and oneness with the perfect community of the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. This, in turn, made it possible for us to love others with the same love we received from God Himself.

If we do not have love, we do not know God at all because God is love (1 John 4:8; 1 John 3:10).

We are able to love because God first loved us (1 John 4:19).

This great and perfect love of God was demonstrated by Jesus on the cross (Romans 5:8), and Jesus has lavishly poured this love into our hearts through the Holy Spirit (Romans 5:5). By building our confidence and identity in God’s love, we are both “strengthened” and “softened” to love others as God loves us. Because God loves us completely and passionately, we are free to love without expecting anything in return or feeling resentful.

Many of us do struggle with love, especially if we have been impacted by trauma and adversity. But instead of feeling guilty or ashamed, just recognise you need healing and freedom.

As we learn to root ourselves in God’s generous love, all the malingering hurts and resentment will be weeded out. We will blossom and become just who He intended us to be in Christ. Then it is possible to love again when it seems impossible.